The Rules
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You are not running a flop house. Rules are necessary. Obedience and attitude are measures of maturity. Ignoring rules by the parent is a disservice to the addict and is not a genuine expression of love. Consider the list below and determine which applies to your situation. (Most will). Before a recovering relative moves in with you they should agree to abide by the rules and attach their signature to the bottom. Failure to enforce the rules only enables one to continue in their addiction.
Must work and pay rent (Suggested $100/wk)
No sleeping after 8:00 AM and before 9:00PM except Sundays
It is recommend to have daily and weekly chores, especially if not working
Must attend church and recovery meetings regularly
Must know who you are with and when you will be home
Must be home by 11:00 PM except for special events with prior agreement
No smoking in the house (optional)
Must pay down debt (w/o interest to family members)
Must account for all money
Must contribute to church or ministry
Must agree to random urine or drug testing
It is advisable to have a mature Christian mentor (non family)
Must have a plan for independence. Look at debt payoff, savings accumulation, income, future housing cost, etc. SET DATES for completion.
Must not drive without auto insurance, valid license, etc. No lawbreaking permitted!
Must take medications as prescribed.
Must not resort to violent or abusive behavior.
Lying and violence is a deal breaker.